I appreciate how open and insightful everyone is about their stories. Luckily it was early enough that only a few close friends and my brother knew about us. “I turned 30 in February, and I think my anxiety about getting older is a little different than that of most single 30-year-olds, because I’m also a mother. Wisdom is power. When you're single at 30, you can use your time to invest in close relationships and develop even stronger ties with them. Being single is a precious time that can be used to really get to know and love yourself. We’ve seen all sorts of top 10 cities lists: The 10 best places to get a job, own a home, start a family, hit the lottery … Now, it’s time for a list that really matters — especially to Money Under 30 readers. 30 Reasons It's OK to Be Single at 30 (and Beyond) By Marissa Gol d. October 23, 2013. Follow your gut don’t ignore the red flags. I have been able to find almost everyone I’ve matched with to develop a better sense of who they are. Im sure most of us can relate to that. Created by Wesley Chan, Philip Wang, Todd Waldman. Yes! When I finally was able to settle down in my 30s, I eventually found my wife. All Systems Operational Uptime over the past 90 days. Thank you for all the advice and support. It’s hard to listen to someone tell you that “you check every box” but are not good enough to be in a relationship with. And sometimes it gets easier to keep running, some 7 years later. I (36F) tend to get matched with men with distinctive names and/or professions so that it’s possible to look them up on that alone. Now as an adult all I wish is that someone had helped me so that I could have become a healthy adult. Thu 11 Feb 2016 09.30 EST. The thing about modern life is that, increasingly, nothing is seen as weird. Of the 25 single men I surveyed ages 30-40, they all agree that around 35 is the best time for a man to be single. Let’s examine some of the common types: 1) The Total Package. Work on personal growth. If you want a case study in humanity, 30-year-old single guys have pretty much all the bases covered. I started seeing someone (31/F) in September. To be honest, I (34/M) am a late bloomer in life. Single and free? 1. Hi Eva, I’m a man in my early thirties, so at a pretty awkward age for dating. Reddit is one of advertising’s best kept secrets. I really enjoy it but I look forward to finding a long-term partner. I'm 36 & I've Been Single For 10 Years. Said we’d get married if we were both single and 40. Aside from your own experiences, you’ve had plenty of time to observe other couples’ relationships and it’s made you all the wiser in what you do and don’t want for yourself in the future. They wanted me to meet someone like me. Still together at 31. Single by 30 is an original romantic comedy web television series created by Wong Fu Productions.The series was launched on YouTube Red August 24, 2016. All of which are my fault for not dealing with them sooner but you can’t have a successful relationship while you’re running from the devil all the time. There were also some that shared a story similar to mine-- had some work to do before they were ready to choose and be a good partner. Thirty has long been the particular age at which women start panicking about getting married. Image credit: Reddit/GreedyPaint. Love of my life. **This is not a place to post personals or "looking for" or hookups. I know I’m a catch and things will get better. Dating Over Thirty is a sub for discussion and advice on dating and relationships for people over the age of 30. All I wanted to do as a kid was push it away and get angry when people wanted to help me. Discover new things. Others felt the timing just hasn't been right, though they've been close, and some are now happily in relationships. Yup. I’m currently eating Taco Bell in a parking lot to celebrate but I’m still really sad. I'm curious to hear what you think has contributed to being single in your 30's. Being single has its rewards. So I used to nod along in agreement as my single friends bemoaned all the married-life perks we miss out on in our nearly-30-and-still-single state.Fresh out of college, at the ripe age of 23, I distinctly remember having a conversation with a coworker about his girlfriend who had just turned 29. I decided three weeks ago it was time to DTR and I have no regrets. It took a lot of therapy and facing reality for me to get to where I am currently and now that I'm here, the dating pool is smaller and many of the men I meet have not done their work. Being single at 30 is like a fine wine — you get better with age. Your bank account, your choices, your time. People who became unexpectedly single in their thirties and forties have been discussing this very subject on Reddit, and their answers are far more life-affirming than you might expect. 9. This alone is a big reason why a lot of their relationships don't work out - their partners feel pressurized to settle down and start families. After losing touch for 12 years, Joanna re-enters Peter's life coincidentally at his 30th birthday party. I wouldn’t blame yourself for running away from your problems. We present to you our first-ever “Best Cities in America to be Young, Broke, and Single.” But when a guy’s single at 30 and still juggling women, it’s just sad. 4. So, that's why I'm 33 and single. I don't think there's anything wrong with being single in your 30's. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I’m going to binge watch a show and keep following. At 33 I’ve finally learned that I’d rather be alone than with someone and miserable. All our values aligned and I was in awe of her. When I was single in my 30s, this was the reason for me too. How about you? Baltimore, Maryland. I was wondering if this is common or am I just a low key stalker? Most of my social circle went to grad or professional school and it's only just now we're at a place in our careers where we can prioritize relationships now that there's actually something to bring to the table Thank God I didn't grow up somewhere where it'd be normal to be divorced with a couple of kids right now having had no space in my 20's to grow up and develop a good sense of self. I’m (30/F) and just started dating a guy that is the same age but divorced with a kid. As a result, I was often demanding, controlling, and insecure... not fun. Being alone has its benefits. If he was still 22, this might be alright. edit: It's been really cool to read everyone's responses. Kris Holt, @krisholt. 20. I spent my 20s traveling the world, in a couple LTRs and working on multiple degrees. Same. Very inspiring... Alcoholism. I haven’t told any else yet. Take advantage. I somehow snagged an attractive doctor.. I’m still wondering how that happened. Lots of talk about lacking social currency (status, charm, physical attraction, etc) or being dealt some pretty shitty life circumstances (death, chronic and mental illness, addiction, trauma). Obviously you’re going to be alone FOREVER. I was also not a great girlfriend in a lot of ways because I was completely codependent and thought a loving romantic relationship was the only way I could feel loved. So I have these moments now where being single gets me down, or the endless slog of online dating seems too daunting to deal with and I get sad, I cry by myself and think I should just call up my ex, but then I remember that there were plenty of times that i would cry alone while we were together when things were supposedly good, so here we are. I believed that all I had to do was keep on enjoying life, focus on my passion, identify the qualities I was looking for and soon enough I would attract the perfect partner. It's totally normal to be single in your 30's where I live. We were best friends and joked about getting married if we were still single when I hit 30. Today, she told me she was ignoring the truth and she didn’t have feelings for me. Don't chase anyone. I don't mean this in a disparaging way and I'd love to hear a spectrum of perspectives and experiences. Do you while you still can without judgment or permission. I'd imagine it wasn't or isn't a priority for some, although it seems many in this sub are actively searching for a … A Redditor is squeezing entire movies onto a single floppy disk. **, Press J to jump to the feed. After 4 months, last weekend I asked her to be my girlfriend and she accepted. Severe childhood trauma. My personal experience is that I spent my teens and 20's choosing partners that were emotionally unavailable, addicts, and/or incompatible because I was recreating the "love" and intimacy I experienced in my dysfunctional childhood. Travel, indulge, start over, treat yo-self. One of the key reasons is because they find women ages 35 and younger to be the most ideal. I didn’t start dating until about three years ago. Mental illness. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the datingoverthirty community, Dating Over Thirty is a sub for discussion and advice on dating and relationships for people over the age of 30. I’m in NYC now and it’s normal to see a lot of single 30-somethings. I learned a valuable lesson. I feel like I have a lot of life experience now and I’m pretty certain about who I am, so I’m better off finding someone (hopefully) now vs 5 years ago. Yup. Living in a very big metro, being in your 30s and single is the norm for guys. They can watch their low-res version of 'Shrek' on a custom VCR. But perhaps the motliest part of this crowd is the ever-growing group of 30-year-old single guys. I don't mean this in a disparaging way and I'd love to hear a spectrum of perspectives and experiences. 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